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Understanding Change. Finding Your Way Through It.
Change rarely comes with an explanation. It just asks us to keep going while we're still making sense of who we're becoming. It reshapes how we see ourselves, how we love the people closest to us, how we understand the life we thought we knew. Whatever you're carrying right now, Dr. Wagner's work is here to walk alongside you - through the topics that matter to you, or the transition you're in the middle of.
EXPLORE BY TOPIC
Start with What You Want to Understand
Most of us don't come looking for insight for its own sake. Sometimes a season of change finds us first. Wherever that has left you - in your own transition, or beside someone moving through theirs - this is a place to begin making sense of it.
ADAPTATION & INTEGRATION
Explore how we adjust to change, make sense of what has happened, and incorporate transitions into the larger framework of our lives.
CHANGE & UNCERTAINTY
Explore how we experience uncertainty, disruption, and changing circumstances when the familiar no longer feels certain.
IDENTITY
Explore how change can reshape the way we understand ourselves, our roles, and the lives we are living.
LOSS & LETTING GO
Explore the emotional and psychological process of living with loss, endings, separation, and what must sometimes be released.
PURPOSE & MEANING
Explore how periods of change can challenge what gives our lives direction, significance, and a sense of purpose.
RELATIONSHIPS
Explore how changing circumstances can affect connection, intimacy, family, friendship, and the ways we relate to others.
IDENTITY
Explore how change can reshape the way we understand ourselves, our roles, and the lives we are living.
RELATIONSHIPS
Explore how changing circumstances can affect connection, intimacy, family, friendship, and the ways we relate to others.
PURPOSE & MEANING
Explore how periods of change can challenge what gives our lives direction, significance, and a sense of purpose.
CHANGE & UNCERTAINTY
Explore how we experience uncertainty, disruption, and changing circumstances when the familiar no longer feels certain.
LOSS & LETTING GO
Explore the emotional and psychological process of living with loss, endings, separation, and what must sometimes be released.
ADAPTATION & INTEGRATION
Explore how we adjust to change, make sense of what has happened, and incorporate transitions into the larger framework of our lives.
EXPLORE BY TRANSITION
Start with What You’re Experiencing
Sometimes we begin not with a subject we want to understand, but with a change or challenge we are living through. Explore Deborah’s work through transitions that may reflect what you are experiencing now—or help you better understand the experience of someone else.
AGING & LIFE STAGES
Explore the changes that come with aging, shifting roles, evolving priorities, and moving through different stages of life.
BETRAYAL & DISRUPTION
Explore the impact of betrayal, broken trust, unexpected disruption, and the process of rebuilding a sense of stability and meaning.
CAREER & WORK
Explore changes in work, career, professional identity, retirement, and the role that work plays in our lives.
CHANGING ROLES & SENSE OF SELF
Explore how major changes can challenge the way we see ourselves, the roles we occupy, and the identities we carry forward.
FAMILY & CAREGIVING
Explore changes in family roles, caregiving responsibilities, dependence, independence, and the relationships that hold families together.
HEALTH & ILLNESS
Explore how changes in health, illness, and physical well-being can affect identity, relationships, expectations, and daily life.
LOSS & GRIEF
Explore how loss can alter our sense of connection, identity, stability, and the way we understand what comes next.
RELATIONSHIPS & PARTNERSHIP
Explore changes in intimate relationships, partnership, connection, separation, and the ways our relationships evolve over time.
UNEXPECTED LIFE CHANGE
Explore changes we did not choose or anticipate, and how we begin to understand, navigate, and integrate what has happened.
CAREER & WORK
Explore changes in work, career, professional identity, retirement, and the role that work plays in our lives.
RELATIONSHIPS & PARTNERSHIP
Explore changes in intimate relationships, partnership, connection, separation, and the ways our relationships evolve over time.
HEALTH & ILLNESS
Explore how changes in health, illness, and physical well-being can affect identity, relationships, expectations, and daily life.
AGING & LIFE STAGES
Explore the changes that come with aging, shifting roles, evolving priorities, and moving through different stages of life.
LOSS & GRIEF
Explore how loss can alter our sense of connection, identity, stability, and the way we understand what comes next.
FAMILY & CAREGIVING
Explore changes in family roles, caregiving responsibilities, dependence, independence, and the relationships that hold families together.
CHANGING ROLES & SENSE OF SELF
Explore how major changes can challenge the way we see ourselves, the roles we occupy, and the identities we carry forward.
BETRAYAL & DISRUPTION
Explore the impact of betrayal, broken trust, unexpected disruption, and the process of rebuilding a sense of stability and meaning.
UNEXPECTED LIFE CHANGE
Explore changes we did not choose or anticipate, and how we begin to understand, navigate, and integrate what has happened.
NOT SURE WHERE TO BEGIN?
Begin with What Feels Most Relevant
You don't need to have a name for the transition you're experiencing—or know exactly what you're looking for. Sometimes the best place to begin is with the question, concern, or experience that feels most present right now.
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Something in my life is changing.
Explore ideas and experiences that can help you understand change, uncertainty, and what it means to find your way through changing circumstances.
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I'm trying to understand what this change means for me.
Explore questions of identity, purpose, relationships, and how our understanding of ourselves can evolve through transition.
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I'm trying to understand what comes next.
Explore adaptation, integration, and how experiences of change become incorporated into the larger framework of our lives.
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Something in my life is changing.
Explore ideas and experiences that can help you understand change, uncertainty, and what it means to find your way through changing circumstances.
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I'm trying to understand what this change means for me.
Explore questions of identity, purpose, relationships, and how our understanding of ourselves can evolve through transition.
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I'm trying to understand what comes next.
Explore adaptation, integration, and how experiences of change become incorporated into the larger framework of our lives.
FEATURED READING
Ideas to Explore Further
A selection of Dr. Wagner's writing on change, relationships, identity, and the experiences that shape how we understand and navigate our lives.
When Your Parent Becomes the One Who Needs Protection
The Gifts Hidden in Caregiving: What Illness Can Teach Us About Love
The Last Conversations: How Terminal Illness Became Our Greatest Teacher
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